The Art of "Appreciating"

“Hey! You look really good today” is one comment that we love to hear over and over again. One way to touch a woman’s deepest emotion and evoke a smile in what-so-ever situation or mood is to heartily appreciate her looks. I am completely ignorant about how it works with men though. Men never crave for it as a women does, except from the woman he loves.

Its important for women to be appreciated, identified, studied, discussed. Yes, she needs all the attention in every way possible from her loved ones in all aspects of her life. Looks and beauty have that extra craving for obvious reasons.
It feels lovely being at the receiving end. Have we ever wondered how it is like to be on the other side? Well, if you are one of them, who find it really hard appreciating someone, admit it. Its not an easy job to do.

Appreciating a fellow human being is one of the hardest tasks. Its one of the “Universal feelings” that I have already referred to. Time for self-introspection. When did you last appreciate a person’s work whole heartedly? This person should not be your Friend!
The question is, how often have we even made an attempt to praise some one’s work?
Its not that we don’t want to, we simply are not used to it. Very few of us think of specific ways to make others happy. Appreciating is definitely not on a women’s list! We see men do that a lot naturally. You know why?

The general conviction goes like this,
When a guy comments on the looks of a girl, he tries to impress her.
When a girl comments on the looks of another girl, she is putting herself down, admitting that “You surely look better than me, and I am jealous!”

Sounds stupid? This is exactly what runs into a girl’s mind. There’s another version of it.
The girl might indeed be beautiful and subject to raving compliments already. Appreciating her? “Oh no!! Her head is already weighing more than it should be, I don’t want to add to her burden!”

There’s one more version. The “Instant Absurdity” strikes. When someone does genuinely compliment us, we tend to blush and say, “Thank you. Why, you look great too”!
Craziest thing to do. By doing so you are only making the person feel embarrassed. Many choose the indirect way. “Hmmm, kalakkara po” in a sarcastic tone. This only leaves the other person guessing what you are trying to convey.

We hardly sit back and think all these minute things, but it makes a lot of difference in Life.
Everyone wants to be liked, more importantly, to know that. Expressing and sharing feelings adds on to the strength of a relationship. Most of all, it makes someone Happy! Makes them feel important. Speak out the fact, tell people what you like about them, appreciate their good work and see for yourself the change in you.